Loving without Limits

Relationships can be the greatest source of joy or a seemingly unyielding source of pain and sorrow. Many couples experience the "falling in love" sensation and feel that they are compatible and are headed in the right direction but find themselves questioning their decision or choice of partner/spouse months or years later.

The foundation of love is more than good sex or "fun times". When we experience the "falling in love" sensation, it is because we are in the courting stages of the relationship. Unless we continue to court and recognize the needs of our partner/spouse, we will not have a solid foundation in love and the relationship will not endure the test of time.

If we consider that the divorce statistics have gone down, we also have to consider that the number of marriages are also not the same. Recent studies indicate that more people are involved in a "living together" relationship instead of committing to marriage for fear of having to pay half when the marriage ends in divorce. The mentality that the relationship will end in divorce is disturbing in itself. We should be entering into our relationship with the knowing that we are going to give 110% and that we expect the relationship to work. Much of our life is directly correlated to the energy and the vibrations that we send out into the Universe. When we think, feel, and believe that something is true, it probably is! So if we believe our marriages are doomed to end in divorce, it probably is! We can absolutely affect our relationships with the thought energy that we send into the Universe and we should therefore be aware of those vibrations that we send out.

So the question then becomes, how do we create a foundation that will last a lifetime? The trick to a solid and  loving relationship is that we have to find solutions and not focus on problems. As long as we are "problem" based, we have a more difficult time realizing the joy and bliss that love can bring! The very first consideration is that we are both equally yoked. This is not just a biblical verse that was added as an afterthought. The truth is that if we are not equally yoked with the person of our desire or affection, we will struggle through a relationship that will usually end in a split because the two souls are not resonating together. Just because we have different views and perspectives doesn't make either of us right, nor wrong. It makes us different and it makes us unique. But that does not mean that we can work through those core differences and find a loving balance. The reason is because the essence of the soul cannot be compromised forever. The soul will eventually express itself and will have to resonate in its own truth to know bliss, joy and true living! There are 13 key components that must be considered between two people before you decide to commit to one another for your lifetime. If those components are congruent, then you will be able to build a happy and long lasting marriage together. If not, there will be struggles and conflict along the way. Depending on the number of differences in compatibility, the relationship may not endure the test of time.

If we are compatible with one another and we wish to share a lifetime of love, we must be willing to be open, to trust, and to be vulnerable with the person we choose for a partner or spouse. When we can share conversations of significance or those that are meaningless; when we are able to let down our guard and share experiences that are frightening or uncomfortable; when we can share our deepest feelings and sentiments regarding life, love, and the Spirit within; when we can laugh and play--share time together doing something or absolutely nothing at all together; when we can express our physical needs and desires both verbally and physically, only then can we create those very strong love bonds that last a lifetime.

Love is a beautiful gift that we can share with a mate or that we can experience with people we love (family, friends, etc.). Love is a gift that is not meant for only a select few people in this world, it is a gift that any person can embrace should they only put forth the effort to embrace those vibrations. The love vibration is the highest resonating energy in the Universe. The quickest way to get love is to love you first so you are then open to be loved! We were created in love! Therefore we must be love. We are all capable of loving; we just have to find that place deep from within that is willing to take the chance to love on those very deep levels. Love is a very precious gift but there is also no greater reward than unconditional love--either giving or receiving!

I wish you all love today! Bliss and joy is the gift that comes when we know love! I wish that each of you may know that feeling and that you are moved to share that same love energy with those you love!

Lisa